Time to grow old gracefully? Non book related ramblings from an enthusiastic reviewer…

I’m having a funny old week which is leading me to believe I’m having a bit of a midlife crisis! Yesterday I ended up riding my granddaughters scooter home from school while trying to achieve a bit more speed in getting my grandson home from nursery. Unfortunately I misjudged a kerb and went head over heels into the road. It  lead to a rather painful and swollen left ankle and knee which are a little bit stiff today but I’m fine. My pride was dented more than my body!

But this is very typical of me because I don’t want to act my age!! Yes I’m 52 but I still feel like I’m in my twenties! Is this normal?? My body still feels like it can do everything it did as a youngster but maybe it’s time to slow down a bit?

I’m obviously looking my age now too! I was out at the weekend and someone mentioned that I don’t look like my profile pic in real life!! So I decided to change one of my pictures to something a little more “realistic” but then worried all night about why I felt the need to do that! I LOVE the pic that I have on my social media sites but I do know it’s very flattering…..THAT IS WHY I CHOSE IT!!! I have had a lifetime of self loathing about the way I look so to have a photo where I look pretty decent is a huge thing for me, especially as it’s taken me over 50 years to get one!!  As most of you are now aware my hair is a curly mop that has a life of its own so I thank God everyday for the invention of GHDs!! The straight hair in this pic took me nearly an hour to achieve!


Talking about my hair I am going to come clean about its colour too. I AM NOT A NATURAL BLONDE!!! I’m not even a brunette anymore as I have I have inherited my family’s “early grey” gene. I had my first grey hair at the age of 19 and am now pretty much all over grey under my blonde. Is it time to go “au naturale” and grow old gracefully? I always said I wouldn’t go grey whilst being mistaken for my grandchildrens mother, which still happens. I am in awe of those self confident women who have embraced their natural greyness and look bloody amazing but I’m struggling to make that leap myself. Why am I putting myself under so much pressure?! I’m still a grandmother to four gorgeous little ones no matter what colour my hair is!

Just why is there so much pressure from society for women to look younger all the time? I decided last week I needed to start a proper skincare routine due to my ever advancing wrinkles. I was advised by the sales lady to go for one for a more mature skin. She was very shocked by my lack of previous use of lotions and potions and when I told her I NEVER take my makeup off before bed she nearly had a coronary!! I read a quote in a book recently that was something along the lines of “men marry the type of women who take their makeup off before bed and have affairs with the ones who don’t” but I must have missed that memo! And to the sales lady who sold me that expensive anti-aging cream…..yes I DO look younger now mainly due to the fact it’s given me more spots than a hormonal teenage girl with a serious chocolate addiction!!!

So when you meet me in real life you don’t get the groomed and filtered me, you just get me. Curly haired with the occasional grey roots, wrinkles but still feeling like a youngster underneath. But I’m very comfortable with that person. It’s taken me a long time to get here so I’m keeping my very flattering profile pic and I’m going to keep riding kids scooters and singing along loudly to Clean Bandit in the car. I’m going to leave mascara streaks on my pillow, drink gin, dye my hair blonde and get my backside stuck on the kids slide in the garden (yes this has actually happened). 

So no, I’m not having a mid life crisis, I have just decided to grow old disgracefully!!!
 

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jorobertson2015

I am a Norfolk girl living in leafy Cheshire with my grumpy Scotsman. A mum and nana who lives for my family but who is also addicted to reading (and Marmite!) I will read almost anything but my preferred genres to review are psychological thrillers, crime procedural novels or women's fiction. My kindle is my life but I also have a substantial bookshelf in my cosy reading room where I can go to escape the stresses of family life with plenty of tea and chocolate. I am a member of netgalley and bookbridg. I review on Amazon, where I'm a Top 500 reviewer, and Goodreads. You can always find me over on Twitter @jocatrobertson for any review requests.

34 thoughts on “Time to grow old gracefully? Non book related ramblings from an enthusiastic reviewer…”

  1. Bloody love you missus! I’d never have thought you were near 50 & that’s not from your photo but more from your passion in life, your fun attitude & the wonderful aura of youth you have. Embrace the silly fun, play on the slide with the grandkids, these are the things they will remember & will form some of the best memories they will have of their younger years. Wrinkles are a sign you’ve lived, laughed & had fun 😘

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    1. You are so right! Life is for living and I would rather the memories of time with my family than anyone else. If nothing else the recent events in the news make you realise that you have to live every day to the full as if it’s your last and when you wake up in the morning give thanks for another day on this amazing planet.
      Love you my little Scottish Hidden Gem! 😘😘😘

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  2. Yeah! I’m about to celebrate a BIG birthday – I shall be 60 in a fortnight and I’m going to celebrate by having my hair dyed purple, so I know exactly what you mean. I’m fighting Dame Nature tooth and nail and will NOT submit to old age without a bloody great big battle. We tend to live a long time in our family – I don’t intend to spend the next thirty-odd years watching daytime TV and going to bed early. I have books to read… books to write… folks to teach… places to see… Like you, I feel a lot like I did in my younger days – except that I am more comfortable in my skin now that I know who I am and what I want. Go us!

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    1. That’s exactly it Sarah! You’ve totally hit the nail on the head with your observations!
      I love the sound of the purple hair!!! And can’t believe you’re about to turn 60!!! Have fun and make more memories!! Xx

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  3. Absolutely brilliant post! Life’s too short. Have fun, be silly, laugh and live!

    I had my first grey hair at 20. Been dying it ever since. I’m way too young and pale to walk around with grey hair. And I love your picture too! There are no decent ones of me either. Unless you like the back of my head. I hate having my picture taken. It never looks the way I see myself and when you look in the mirror and feel good about yourself, a crappy picture can really ruin your day/month/year!

    Keep being your awesome self. As they say, age ain’t nothing but a number! 😘

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    1. You’re right! It’s just a number nowadays. I have a picture of my nana at the same age I am now and she looks like a little old lady. Nowadays I struggle to tell people’s ages as there’s no “rules” anymore about what you wear or how you behave at a certain age.
      Lovely to meet another “early grey” It looks great on my dad but I will be dying mine till the very end!!! Xx

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  4. I think you look beautiful Jo and I’ve met the ‘real’ you. You’re not called Glamma for nothing!

    I look older than you and I’m not quite the big 4-0 (not quite​!). I hope when I reach 52 I look half as good as you cos then I’ll be a happy lady.

    Disappointed to hear you don’t use skin cream though as I’ve been working up the courage to ask you what it is! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

    Gorgeous on the inside and gorgeous on the outside ❀ Love you lady xxx

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    1. Awww that’s lovely of you to say so Emma!! The scooter incident really made me a little too thoughtful about things-probably because I had to sit down and rest this leg and I NEVER sit down!!! Now I know why-I will end up with random musings on my blog!

      Can’t wait till Harrogate now. We are going to have a blast!!! 😘😘xxx

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  5. Love this post. You keep on doing what you’re doing Jo. I’ve met you IRL and you’re gorgeous just as you are. My first grey hair appeared when I was 17 ( apparently my mum’s mum was completely white by her early 20s so I blame genetics!) I’ve been highlighting my hair for as long as I can remember and I’m now in my 50s. It’s much more important to have your young at heart positive attitude than the ‘right’ hair colour. Keep on scootering! πŸ˜™

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    1. Oh you are a love!! Yes we have that gene too-my dad and my nana were both fully white by the age of 25. I would have had no idea when meeting you that you’re the same!
      I will keep with the scooter but no more falling off as it’s lead to me sitting down for more than 5 minutes and writing down all the rubbish in my head lol x

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  6. Thanks for making me laugh.. I’m 50 in two weeks time but it’s just a number every minute counts and loving life and all the people around you is all that matters … I love Roald Dahl saying that being kind and lovely is what makes a person beautiful X

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  7. Oh, I love this!! Having had the pleasure of meeting you in the flesh I can say you definitely don’t look your age! You are beautiful inside and out! I’ve scoured my hard drive looking for a half decent photo of myself for various platforms and seem to regurgitate the same ones over and over (I believe one of them is from nine years ago!!) We are our own worst enemy sometimes! I say we should grow old as disgracefully as we can!! What does that meme tell us – I’m not going to die quietly, I’m going to slide sideways into my grave shouting ‘what a ride!’ πŸ˜‰

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    1. Glad it’s not just me then! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ And can I just say that photo taken of you on Saturday after you got your award is absolutely amazing!!! I love that pic!
      And yes I love that saying. When I went to London on Saturday the kids were really worried about me and I told them that if anything ever happened to me they should remember that I was living my life to the fullest, doing something I loved whilst in my “happy place”. Can’t ask for more than that! πŸ˜‰

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      1. Hahaha, I look like a kid on Christmas morning!! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Totally agree with you about living life to the fullest! We’ll still be kicking our heels up at the Bloggers Bash in 2047! πŸ˜œπŸŽ‰πŸ₯‚

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  8. I’ve always felt 19 inside; gauche, hopeful and rather optimistically inadequate. Reaching 50 meant I had to do something about the ‘just a number’ business so now I add the two numbers together and that’s my age for the year; this year I was 6 again – yah hay hello sandpit!

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  9. I think it’s sad that there is so much pressure to look a certain way. At the end of the day you do what makes you happy and if that is the profile picture you want to use then use it! I never wear make-up, have lots of grey hair (that I dye to cover) and look bloody awful in photos, hence no one ever seeing any lol. I think although we get older our personality doesn’t change, I have struggled with this due to chronic illness meaning my body can’t do the things it used to do but in my head I’m still the pre-illness me. You are a lovely person and as long as what you do makes you happy that is all that matters. Don’t stop being you xxx

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    1. Yes I get where you’re coming from. I have always hated having my photo taken and do feel under pressure to look a certain way but maybe that’s because I have 3 daughters whom I’m very close to so I still think I’m one of them! It’s inside that matters at the end of the day and that usually shines through to the outside.
      It must be so hard for you but you’re an amazing person, you work so hard at your blog and that’s been recognised recently so you must be so proud! Thanks for your lovely friendship xxx

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      1. Oh yes I remember seeing her photos when you’ve shared them! Some fabulous genes in your family passed down to you both!
        Yes I will be growing old disgracefully and encouraging everyone else to do the same! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ xxx

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  10. Age is just a number. I turn 40 this year and I still do cartwheels to beat almost all the young kids. It’s fun when theybare a fat older guy being better at it then they are. Then I tell them I was a gymnast

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  11. a woman after my own heart. I figure the moment you think your old your body and mind start to fall apart so I say avoid it as long as you can!

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  12. I love this post! It hit a chord with me as I turned 40 in February and had a bit of a confidence crisis. Fortunately after a stern talking to by my family and I came through it relatively unscathed, although I did attempt to dye the ends of my hair turquoise!!
    Like you I’ve had grey hair since I was 19 and have thought about embracing the current trend for grey hair but haven’t plucked up the courage as yet.
    I’m definitely planning on growing old disgracefully, it’s the only way x

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  13. “I’m keeping my very flattering profile pic and I’m going to keep riding kids scooters and singing along loudly to Clean Bandit in the car. I’m going to leave mascara streaks on my pillow, drink gin, dye my hair blonde and get my backside stuck on the kids slide in the garden (yes this has actually happened).Β ”

    Age truly is just a number. If you FEEL 20, then girl you go out there and live like a 20-year-old!

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