Today I’m delighted to be on the blog tour for this fabulous book Where I Found You by Emma Robinson on publication day! Many thanks to Kim Nash for the blog tour invite.
About this book…
Your daughter will not speak… But can she teach you how to live?
Ever since Ruby was tiny, she has been unique. Her smiles are magically rare, and she likes things done in a very particular way – her blocks are always colour-coded, and her toy animals stand in regimented lines. She’s also the daughter of Sara’s dreams – even on days when being a mother to a three-year-old is exhausting.
Not everyone understands Ruby like Sara does though. Not Sara’s husband Mike, and certainly not her disapproving mother-in-law, Barbara. So when circumstances force their family to move in with Barbara, Sara knows it’s going to make motherhood even harder.
Then Ruby’s pre-school suggest that her behaviour and refusal to speak might be the first signs of a bigger issue, in the same week that Mike walks out on them. And Sara’s world is blown apart.
Facing life as a single parent and trying to work out Ruby’s needs is more than Sara can handle alone. There’s only one person she can turn to for support – Barbara.
But how can you ask for help from someone who doesn’t think you’re raising your child right? Who thinks your daughter’s problems are in your imagination?
For the love of one girl who will not speak, can the two women overcome their differences and learn to communicate?
Oh this was a fabulous book that every mother should read-especially the “Judgy Judys!!” It’s a book written from the heart with a beautifully composed storyline that felt current and relatable. Don’t go into it with any preconceived ideas, just read and become involved in the uphill struggle that Sara faces following the move to her mother in laws house with husband Mike and toddler Ruby. It’s a heartbreaking book but at the same time full of optimism as the author completely nails the bottomless love of a mother for her child.
I haven’t read any books by this author before so I wasn’t quite sure what to expect but knew I really wanted to read this one due to its subject matter. Not only do I work in a school with a provision, I also have a personal interest in SEN children due to having gone through many of the steps that Sara has to go through with a member of my own family. And it’s tough!! Not just the process of diagnosis which can take years until you to reach the top of your mountain but then instead of coming down the other side someone always sticks another HIGHER mountain in your way!! And there is also the fight to change perceptions of SEN in others and to be honest that’s a battle that I wouldn’t even bother with because you would probably be wasting your time! Sara has the right attitude here but I did feel so sorry for her as I knew exactly what was coming up for her and she needed that support from those closest to her for her own sanity! But as in real life, you find your “tribe” and those people are worth their weight in gold. I knew exactly how Sara felt when the issues surrounding Ruby were brought up by her preschool and have experienced it from both sides of the educational fence. Advising parents to seek advice is a difficult and very fine line to walk as you need to advise without worrying them but still need to convey the seriousness of the situation. And as a parent it’s a form of bereavement when you finally have to face up to the death of the future you had foreseen in your head. It’s so easy to panic as a parent if your child isn’t hitting targets (and why oh why does everything have to be targeted nowadays?!) as every child is an individual so Sara was so brave to take everything onboard especially as she had no support. Her husband and mother in law wound me up so much but eventually I was able to look at things from a different angle and see that once again Emma Robinson had portrayed a different side to parenting so that eventually all becomes clear.
The letters written by Barbara added a change of outlook and although I worked out why they were there, sometimes I felt they weren’t really needed. For me the best part of the book was watching how Sara gradually opened herself up to others. I know that feeling well, thinking that everyone else is living the perfect life with their perfect children so learning not to be a “Judgy Judy” herself was probably the making of her!
This is a bittersweet tale that is clever, funny and heartbreaking at the same time but ultimately it is full of hope for the future. I loved it.
Meet the author…